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Redefining Insanity: Thinking Patterns and Expectations

The Mindset Blog "Insanity is not just doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, it is thinking the same way over and over and expecting different results." —Harry Petsanis  Harry Petsanis, Mindset Coach & Authur Have you ever caught yourself doing the same thing repeatedly, expecting different results? It’s...

Chess versus Checkers Part 2

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Chess versus Checkers Part 1

The Mindset Blog "There are often two types of people: the person who is interested in winning the battle and the person who is interested in winning the war. The wise person often looks at the big picture. That is the perspective of a chess player who thinks about winning the game—not winning the move. The chess player isn't worried about...

Embracing Self-Reflection: Empowering Change through Personal Growth

Embracing Self-Reflection: Empowering Change through Personal Growth In life, understanding the power of self-reflection is key to unlocking personal growth and healthier relationships. When faced with a string of failed choices and relationships, it's essential to recognize that the root of the issue lies within ourselves, not external...

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The Power of Reframing: From Mistakes to Poor Choices

“Quit calling your poor choices mistakes. When you say something is a mistake, you are acting as if you have no control over a situation. A poor choice means you are accountable and responsible when your choices have negative ramifications.”

—Harry Petsanis

Harry Petsanis, Mindset Coach & Authur
Harry Petsanis, Mindset Coach & Author

You’ve used “mistake” to describe unintended outcomes, thereby relinquishing responsibility. But what if you switched “mistake” to “poor choice?” This change shifts ownership back to you, emphasizing your role in these outcomes.

It’s more than a vocabulary change; it’s a paradigm shift toward personal accountability. You’re not a passive bystander, but an active participant in your life, shaping events, not merely reacting to them.

Changing “mistakes” to “poor choices” focuses on learning and growth. Labeling an outcome as a poor choice implies a better one existed, prompting self-reflection, identifying decision-making flaws, and planning for a more fruitful approach next time.

“Poor choice” implies ownership and power. It acknowledges that you are accountable for your actions and can learn from them. This shift isn’t about self-blame, but empowerment. It affirms your ability to influence your life’s trajectory. So, next time you’re about to say “I made a mistake,” consider the empowering alternative, “I made a poor choice.”

The shift from ‘mistakes’ to ‘poor choices’ inspires improvement, prompting analysis of past actions and application of lessons to future decisions. This is not about self-blame or guilt, but understanding that everyone makes poor choices and it’s the response and growth from these experiences that matter.

Shifting from viewing actions as ‘mistakes’ to ‘poor choices’ is profound. It’s about transitioning from victimhood to agency and growth. By doing this, you’re seizing the power to shape your life’s course, ready to learn and grow from every choice you make.

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